Dogs Can Have Human-Like Anxiety. They Need Human-Like Treatment [Opinion Piece]

Re:Dogs Can Have Human-Like Anxiety. They Need Human-Like Tr... by throwaway646465 on Monday May 15, 2023 @10:36AM (#35948835)

> Speaking from experience when I was a kid, being spoken to in this manner always felt belittling.

I think a lot of it comes down to how people usually communicate with the kid.

Like I can’t possibly imagine my Dad saying “Looks like we got some big feelings here, want to talk about it?” It sounds so silly and patronizing.

But “Boona, I can’t help unless you tell me what’s wrong” is completely normal to my ears.

For all intents and purposes they’re the same question though. I think kids just just know us more than we give them credit for, so if you pull out the “Journal approved parenting voice” when that’s not how you talk normally they’ll react accordingly.

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Re:Dogs Can Have Human-Like Anxiety. They Need Human-Like Tr... by Tronno on Monday May 15, 2023 @10:55AM (#35949198)

Nothing about either phrasing sounds condescending to me. However, communication is more than words.

You can ask about feelings with a gentle tone, a supportive gaze at eye level, and a hand on the shoulder. Or you can do it from above with an eye roll and a sarcastic bite.

I can easily see a frustrated parent giving in to their own emotions and using the latter approach.

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