Permit? Your wife? It's not a kid you can revoke internet access from.

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Where did the OP say they’ve done nothing? Isn’t it entirely possible they’ve said how they feel about it, and their partner decided not to listen to them for whatever reason?

I had a partner who smoked and continually encouraged them to quit. It took years. Pathological behaviors are hard to break.

OP's inaction is implicit, elsewise they would have attempted to explain what efforts have been attempted to resolve the issue.

As is the generally accepted method of writing comments around here.

Absence of further explanation is invitation of discuss. So here we are.

> OP's inaction is implicit, elsewise they would have attempted to explain what efforts have been attempted to resolve the issue.

That's absolute nonsense. There's no reason for OP to disclose that information in relation to the post they made. They were just posting a personal experience, not looking for anyone's advice.

Do you mean to imply of all the many people who frequent this site, one should expect to receive only replies that conform to your beliefs, or your preferred decorums?

That doesn't sound like an argument anyone would intentionally make.

Husband and wife have a duty to take care of each other. If TikTok is damaging her, he should not permit it. If he is abusing drugs that is destroying him, she should not permit it.

What do you mean by permit in this usage?

I’m interpreting it as in “Stand for it”

So, if the person does what you don't permit, you would leave the relationship?

No, that would be unskilful.

You expand your knowledge and experience to influence in beneficial directions.

Small perturbations can result in dramatic change over time.

Sure, but that's not what I think of when hearing "permit".

That’s a bit dramatic, isn’t it?

That's what I thought about "permit" and "stand for it".

Try to interpret my comment in the most benevolent way possible.

If someone your SO invited in to your home repeatedly resulted in your SO crying, would you continue to watch this happen time and again, or would you encourage change?

I would encourage change. I think "permit" was poor word choice.

My wife is extremely intelligent doctor, and we talk endless about everything. I’m not worried about her nor do I presume to “permit” anything.