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Re:Dinner with Proust: how Alzheimer’s caregivers are pulled... by tnel77 on Friday April 28, 2023 @09:56AM (#35741311)
How beautiful and terrifying. Thank you for sharing your story.
Re:Dinner with Proust: how Alzheimer’s caregivers are pulled... by LocalH on Friday April 28, 2023 @11:04AM (#35742155)
Fortunately, the aforementioned DMT experience helped me process her end-of-life greatly. Even my father noticed a very quick and thorough change in my demeanor. I was also extremely fortunate to be able to experience the moment when she actually reached her peace. I was no longer worried about her, because I deeply felt that her transition into death was going to be happy and peaceful. I never really experienced any grief as a result of that.
Re:Dinner with Proust: how Alzheimer’s caregivers are pulled... by kar5pt on Friday April 28, 2023 @10:59AM (#35742092)
I was told that in the early stages of dementia, it's good to challenge their unrealistic beliefs, but in the later stages its best to go along with them.

Middle and late stage dementia patients are basically in a constant state of confusion. The human mind can't handle being confused all the time, so it will make up stories that make their world make sense. Once they're at that stage, it's kinder to just let them live in that world, rather than pulling them back into confusion.

When my mom used to take my grandfather with dementia out to lunch, he would always insist that he'd been to that restaurant before, even if he hadn't. It was his way of convincing himself something was familiar, limiting that perpetual confusion.

Re:Dinner with Proust: how Alzheimer’s caregivers are pulled... by LocalH on Friday April 28, 2023 @11:09AM (#35742241)
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Re:Dinner with Proust: how Alzheimer’s caregivers are pulled... by kayodelycaon on Friday April 28, 2023 @11:10AM (#35742263)
Yeah. It's a sad disease. Psychosis combined with emotional disregulation is not fun. Fighting against it doesn't work very well because the other person isn't seeing what you're seeing.

From my own experience, I explain psychosis as someone trying to tell me a cloudless sky is pink. I've known the sky is blue my entire life. Everyone knows the sky is blue. Who is this bizarre person who thinks otherwise?

On top of that, humans tend to double down when challenged. Fighting it just doesn't work. Their memory is gone, so any progress you've made is undone very quickly. If you don't understand what is happening, you're going to lose your mind too.