We don't need the word gender.

Behaviour and norms used to be called 'manners'. Men bow, women courtesy. Princes and princesses.

Abstracting out a 'gender norm' across all cultures is a doomed exercise. There's too many different tones (genders) trying to be contained in the one song.

The vast majority of western humanity fits in man/woman straight spiritual manners.

Bikeshedding over gender definitions is something worth forgetting from the past ten years.

Let the third and fourth and fifth 'gender norms' be what they may.