On another hand, I feel a bit like the blog post, in that I'm not extra motivated into trying this, maybe also a bit worried to break somebody's heart (this includes, potentially, mine), or to be stuck in a situation I don't really like for too long. If I think through that deeply I'm not sure I even find that much upside. Anyway I really like his wording, it speaks to me quite a bit.
Lots of people do, though. Unfortunately.
So for the author, and whomever else, I'd ask, are you being honest with yourself or are you turning away from fear?
Either something is worth the risk, galvanizing yourself, and taking your shot whatever the results, or it’s not. If it’s the later, let it go and move on. If you can’t move on, why not? Are you being honest with yourself? Deep down, you know the answer, because it’s a feeling. An intuition.
Ambivalence. Living in between these two states is painful. You’re attached to something but scared to reach out for it. It’s life under tension.
At a certain point, you can't resolve this tension by sitting in place and thinking deeply. You're not just a mind. You have to use your body, too.
i wouldn’t under estimate how crippling of a fear this is. you wouldn’t tell a depressed person “cheer up!”