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Re:I’ve been single all my life by JohnFen on Wednesday April 12, 2023 @07:26PM (#35548513)
What the other replies said. But with a couple of clarifications:

You should engage in an activity that you enjoy for its own sake. Don't take up dance class, for instance, if you aren't actually interested in learning to dance.

Don't "go looking for women". That is, don't try to be a pickup artist. Make an effort to be generally social, but don't focus just on the ladies. Be generally social. Talk to the men as well as the women.

Re:I’ve been single all my life by brigandish on Wednesday April 12, 2023 @07:44PM (#35548724)
If you don’t try things that you don’t already do then how will you know whether you enjoy them? Most people who don’t enjoy dancing don’t enjoy because they feel uncomfortable at such a low skill level. Learn to dance and then you can enjoy it. Like most things, if you’re good at it then you enjoy it. Both can cause the other.

And there’s tons of women at dance classes.

Re:I’ve been single all my life by itake on Wednesday April 12, 2023 @09:21PM (#35549583)
I find this to be bad advice. People already do the activities they enjoy and don’t do the activities that don’t enjoy.

Clearly the activities they enjoy do not involve meeting women. For me, this translates to weight lifting (few women lift; if there are women, there is a trope for creepy gym guy and there isn’t much socialization outside of the men’s locker room) or coding (another solo experience).

Try new things. Try things that are social and are uncomfortable for introverts. It’s the only way you can find the results you want.

Re:I’ve been single all my life by dnissley on Thursday April 13, 2023 @12:55AM (#35551122)
I think the trick is really that you need to A) notice if you are a person who engages in activities dominated by your own gender or solo activities, B) figure out how to broaden your horizons without whiteknucking it.

I want to stress just how difficult both of these things can be -- especially the second part. It's truly a journey where you end up changing your entire mindset to become a person who is going to make a good partner for another human being. You must not feel pressured to do it, or resentful that you are doing it. You must choose wholeheartedly to do it. It's going to feel awkward and strange along the way.

Re:I’ve been single all my life by JohnFen on Thursday April 13, 2023 @11:23AM (#35556873)
My comment doesn't mean "don't try new things" at all. Absolutely try them and see if you like them or not. What I'm saying is that whatever things you're doing, you shouldn't be doing just to meet women.

Women can tell when guys are doing that, and it's generally off-putting.