Re:Zed follows up on the search for Matt
by cousin_it on Friday October 31, 2008 @07:35PM
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> If you try to eliminate something from your personality in a straightforward way, what tends to happen is that it goes underground.
This sounds neat, but is it true? Executing actions really does drive away fear, moreover it seems to be the only effective way to overcome fear. If you tried it, you know. :-) Quitting smoking or stopping manipulative behavior cold turkey really does work, while the gradual approach doesn't work and is self-deceptive. I have decisively and successfully driven away certain qualities, and other people agree when asked that I no longer have them.
Re:Zed follows up on the search for Matt
by gruseom on Saturday November 01, 2008 @01:05AM
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I don't mean to deny anything that works for you. My experience has been that the straightforward strategies stop working after a while and that at that point the game becomes one of integration.
This sounds neat, but is it true? Executing actions really does drive away fear, moreover it seems to be the only effective way to overcome fear. If you tried it, you know. :-) Quitting smoking or stopping manipulative behavior cold turkey really does work, while the gradual approach doesn't work and is self-deceptive. I have decisively and successfully driven away certain qualities, and other people agree when asked that I no longer have them.