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Re:Young men say why many of them are single: ‘Dates feel mo... by xboxnolifes on Thursday March 02, 2023 @11:43PM (#35005915)
I'm in the young cohort, and it's frankly insane how many of my friends consider starting a conversation with a stranger in public to be almost sinful in basically every context. Bars are still acceptable, but for basically every other public place I've heard them complain, one way or another, about someone trying to start a conversation with them. Not about them not taking no for an answer, just being annoyed that they tried.

Now, I know it's "not every young person", since I also know many social butterflies, but the number I know is still shocking.

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Re:Young men say why many of them are single: ‘Dates feel mo... by giardini on Friday March 03, 2023 @12:57AM (#35006297)
A significant problem is earbuds. People wear them anywhere: walking in the middle of auto traffic, in saunas and pools. Unless a cellphone is visible one may not realize a person is in a conversation.

Years ago It was depressing to see someone talking to himself in the middle of a parking lot; now it's an everyday occurrence but not madness b/c there's a real conversation.

Every now and then I ponder whether the cellphone and earbuds combo hasn't become the perfect disguise for schizophrenics.

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Re:Young men say why many of them are single: ‘Dates feel mo... by grog_tremor on Friday March 03, 2023 @04:09AM (#35007404)
I sometimes wear earbuds or headphones just to avoid people trying to talk to me.

I'm not even listening to anything, those things are completely silent. I just don't want contact with people.

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Re:Young men say why many of them are single: ‘Dates feel mo... by giardini on Sunday March 05, 2023 @11:46AM (#35031265)
grog_tremor says>"I sometimes wear earbuds or headphones just to avoid people trying to talk to me. I'm not even listening to anything, those things are completely silent. I just don't want contact with people."<

So you're essentially a hermit surrounded by a society! You may share some characteristics with those who meditate, deaf persons, the autistic et al but, to your advantage, you have the option of hearing.

I must admit sometimes I need some silence.

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