Society creates laws that affect each other and zoning is no different.
If I live in a cute little community and my neighbors all agree that we like it how it is, we can collectively agree to keep it like that.
If that little neighborhood had a dense block of apartment buildings, many of the people who originally lived there wouldn’t want to stay.
Now, all that in mind, I generally agree that we need to fix zoning. I’m not a homeowner and want to buy property in places that are currently too expensive for me..
But I completely understand that people would be upset to build a community somewhere, then gradually be pushed away because a few of their neighbors sold to a big company, and their neighborhood doesn’t fit their needs anymore.
Even if the majority want to stay, they get forced away by a few using their land in ways that are bad for the rest of the group.
Builder's remedy or state-imposed zoning has no power if no one ever sells to a developer, right?
Plus you're comparing living in a more dense neighborhood to cooking meth. I can't take you seriously at all.
And I do prefer dense walkable neighborhoods personally, but I just also understand the frustration of a community living somewhere because of some quality of that neighborhood, then having that quality ripped away just because a small number of previous inhabitants left.
If "quality of neighborhood" is so important then said neighborhood should, as I stated above, put their money where their mouth is. Maintain a common fund, and commit to match any offer for any house going up for sale in the community. Stop using everyone else's taxpayer dollars to have cities pass and enforce laws to do it.