Several years ago I went through a depressive episode that led to most of my life falling apart because I didn't feel invested enough in my own life to do things. It wasn't like I was preoccupied with more entertaining options, it was more like I had set fire to my life and wanted to watch it burn. I spent some time in a hospital, and the most useful thing I took from that experience was a talk with a social worker about getting things done before you were buried under shit to do. "Do it now" became my mantra and that got me back on my feet. The mindset isn't as vivid as it once was, but it's still very much ingrained - I've just gotten worse at listening to that voice in my head.

Since then, I have very limited tolerance for people who don't share that mindset. Unfortunately, that seems to describe most people I know. but even still I don't know many people I'd count on to take care of something important without nagging. I hate to feel like I have to follow up any time I ask someone to take care of something, but more than that I hate the disappointment I feel when someone doesn't and doesn't have a good reason.