I agree, but I think most people model others in their head quite crudely so whenever someone breaks outside of their box of expectations, that someone is no longer serving the same role in the relationship, and risks being shunned or replaced. Purely conjecture though.

On the flip side, now closer to an emotionless robot due to such experiences, I find people relying on me for my emotionless roboticism.

> You want to hang out with people who accept your whole self, weaknesses and strengths included.

Lol no. Your “whole self” is your problem. Maybe your parent’s. Maybe your spouse’s. Most people don’t want to deal with other people’s problems, and that’s entirely reasonable.

They especially don’t want to deal with your “whole self” if that wasn’t the terms of the relationship originally. People make friends with other people for reasons. Sometimes it’s because they’re funny. Or a good drinking buddy. Other times it’s because they’re emotionally stable, or practical, or a good listener, etc. If you change the parameters of what you’re offering in the relationship, people will reevaluate their reasons for being in it.