There are literal state laws being passed increasingly criminalizing the existence of being trans, right now especially any kind of trans healthcare for kids (some legislatures are looking to extend it to adults). There have been mass killings specifically targeting LGBT+ individuals. Even merely informing someone of the pronouns you go by is almost guaranteed to bring flaming and harassment on most online platforms, often including right here on HN.

I want to be charitable but it's hard to interpret this attitude as anything other than willful ignorance of very obvious facts.