That's a point the book I mentioned actually touches. We're not in tune with our needs and don't work on our problems, so we focus on work, social media etc. But we lack the focus on what makes life worth living. It's human connection, being in tune with yourself, nature. You have to make the time to focus on these things. We are very easily distracted by non-important things. We have to put in the work to stay connected (to others and ourselves) and get our needs met, simple as that.

So what I'm saying is: not sure it's a skill problem (it might be if we're talking about staying connected to what you need) but a societal problem