Re:I made a website for lonely people, and got >100 people t...
by mach1ne on Tuesday January 31, 2023 @07:35AM
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Sure, but I think that's a different kind of loneliness than that of lonely people who have practically never had a proper friendship in their lives.
Re:I made a website for lonely people, and got >100 people t...
by RamblingCTO on Wednesday February 01, 2023 @04:18AM
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That's a point the book I mentioned actually touches. We're not in tune with our needs and don't work on our problems, so we focus on work, social media etc. But we lack the focus on what makes life worth living. It's human connection, being in tune with yourself, nature. You have to make the time to focus on these things. We are very easily distracted by non-important things. We have to put in the work to stay connected (to others and ourselves) and get our needs met, simple as that.
So what I'm saying is: not sure it's a skill problem (it might be if we're talking about staying connected to what you need) but a societal problem
I think the struggle for a lot of adults is not in the interaction or in the start but in the maintaining relationships.
This is easy in school and university because of the free time and co-location, the challenge is to do it when we all go our separate ways.
In that sense I do feel like I lack the skills and the mental CRM system to keep walking those friendship footpaths before all the weeds and time make these footpaths slowly vanish.