I've made progress but it's not easy to gauge how much.
10 is too early for the "what would you tell yourself" question. At 10 you don't yet have a self that can be retroactively told things to. I suppose I would say "it's all ok and you're ok and it's all happening for a reason".
To my 15 year-old self and later, I would say: it's not going to be anything like you expect, so trust what happens and try not to resist.
If you met yourself at 10 and wanted to transmit some advice about what you need to do to feel free, what would you say? (I’m curious if you’ve made progress towards answering the question, or if it’s as elusive as it sounds.)