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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by lelanthran on Monday January 30, 2023 @11:27PM (#34591097)
> If they're so intelligent and decent, why are they relying on such disturbing tactics to meet women in the first place?

Because it's

a) Not disturbing,

and

b) working.

I mean, seriously, if they keep their hands to themselves and make no unwanted advances, what exactly do you find indecent about this?

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by Tozen on Monday January 30, 2023 @11:43PM (#34591234)
> ...if they keep their hands to themselves and make no unwanted advances, what exactly do you find indecent about this?

It's likely that they are bothered by heterosexual males who might have any situation or opportunity (among adults of similar age and agency) that can be perceived as advantageous to them or contributes to their happiness.

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by ofcourseyoudo on Tuesday January 31, 2023 @12:06AM (#34591415)
You're in a couple of these threads stanning for these creeps. As a mental exercise: why do you think several of the women are demoralized by this environment if there's nothing going wrong here?
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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by sugarpile on Tuesday January 31, 2023 @12:22AM (#34591509)
Why do you think anyone, female or otherwise, being demoralized means something “wrong” is occurring? So silly to form a moral/ethical framework on something as intangible, fickle, and culturally influenced as people’s feelings.

Also, comments like “stanning for these creeps” are disrespectful and have no place on HN, imo.

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by lelanthran on Tuesday January 31, 2023 @12:17AM (#34591477)
> You're in a couple of these threads stanning for these creeps.

Well, how about you explain why you are equivocating "no unwanted advances" to "creeps".

I'm in a couple of these threads because a) I have some free time now to read, and b) there are way too many people demonizing males attempting to find a partner.

Like you are doing.

> As a mental exercise: why do you think several of the women are demoralized by this environment if there's nothing going wrong here?

Well, the women who are dating are specifically not complaining. Who are you to tell women where and when they may allow courtship?

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by sinity on Wednesday February 01, 2023 @01:29PM (#34615161)
> why do you think several of the women are demoralized by this environment if there's nothing going wrong here?

So if some woman is demoralized solely by my presence, I should move out of her sight?

Oh, also: these demoralized women are apparently the ones who aren't getting attention. So yeah...

IDK, I believe in gender equality.

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by roarcher on Wednesday February 01, 2023 @08:34PM (#34620863)
Fortunately we don't have to speculate because the professor himself explains why:

> Some of the young students in my class take up these offers, and this further demoralizes other female students seeing this happen (i.e. only attractive women being offered tutoring sessions).

The more attractive women are receiving all the positive attention, and the others are hurt by this. Which is totally understandable, but...welcome to the world. Life is unfair, and being attractive opens doors that aren't available to others. Are people obligated to show equal interest in everyone, regardless of their actual feelings towards them? Men who hold this belief are usually derided (and rightfully so) as "incels".

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