> Online dating doesn't work unless you're in the top X% of attractiveness

I find that most people that say this only attempt to match with people in the top X% of attractiveness.

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The real source behind this statement was that Ok Cupid once published a blog post with some analysis of their data. They found that the average man on the platform was rated as bellow average attractiveness by woman while the average woman was ranked as average attractiveness by men. There were some more related stats in the same post.

This of course exploded and they deleted the post.

This one?[0] It's funny it's always cited with the reversed finding: while men were more fair in rating attractiveness, they then only target the top most attractive females, completely oblivious of where they stand. OTOH women were more harsh in rating but they are then able to shift their expectation to realistic ones. By these data dating only works if you are in the top X% of attractiveness if you are a woman, but it works better for the average man.

[0]https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive/

You hit on a major point, that many don't realize or the more misandric minded purposely overlook. The vast majority of young heterosexual men (arguably 80% or so) simply do not have the same opportunities with the opposite sex, as do most young women in the reverse. This is a matter of both biology and society.

Young heterosexual men have to compete with older men, who may be already established in terms of socioeconomic position, maturity, knowledge about women, and focus. These attributes, of what older men can bring to the table, can be very attractive to younger women and severely reduce their availability. Many women, in general, are not even looking or caring about these younger men, unless they are in the top 20% to 10% who hit the genetic and/or socioeconomic lottery and mostly have it all in terms of looks, style, build, height, innate charisma, popularity, and/or family wealth. The further the young men are from the top, the harder their struggles with the opposite sex can be. And dramatically way more so, than their female equivalents.

This can be why such young heterosexual men (outside the top 20%) can be resorting to seemingly extreme measures that are incomprehensible to females and non heterosexuals. More so, many women have little to zero sympathy or empathy for the harsh struggles of such young men, and even to the point that such women have misplaced unreasonable disdain and contempt of males, combined with the arrogance of their position and ignorance to the realities.

Many women take attention, sexual choice, and sexual opportunity for granted. It's something they can choose to indulge in (particularly as young women), almost whenever they feel like or the mood hits them. These are options that most young men do not have whatsoever. Which is why some kind of app, doing auditing, or tutoring are even seen as helpful possibilities.

> to engage with a drunk girl who can't properly consent

Shouldn't we disallow girls from drinking alcohol, then? It's rather weird to allow parties with alcohol, and then claim that rape occured "because someone was drunk and so cannot be held responsible for their decisions".

What if the man was also drunk? If a drunk person can't be held responsible for their decisions, well...

I don't understand why is it always about guys supposedly taking advantage of girls.