Its because youre not a rare commodity and because society has shifted from family-building to endless dating. Big salaries work wonders for dating in relatively not that well off environments, if you had a salary like that and lived in Mobile Alabama, or like Slovakia I am sure you would be a hot cake there, but bay area or LA or NYC it doesnt really matter. What matters is whether you have the romancing vibes and whether youre an exciting partner. I highly suggest you go travel somewhere for like a few months and totally immerse yourself in the culture and try dating, it will be a paradigm shift for you. Places like Argentina or Brazil or Mexico, just make sure you research whether Americans are accepted and try dating there, it will blow your mind.