Re:Sexual loneliness: A neglected public health problem?
by quotz on Thursday January 26, 2023 @01:09PM
(#34535920)
Its because youre not a rare commodity and because society has shifted from family-building to endless dating. Big salaries work wonders for dating in relatively not that well off environments, if you had a salary like that and lived in Mobile Alabama, or like Slovakia I am sure you would be a hot cake there, but bay area or LA or NYC it doesnt really matter. What matters is whether you have the romancing vibes and whether youre an exciting partner. I highly suggest you go travel somewhere for like a few months and totally immerse yourself in the culture and try dating, it will be a paradigm shift for you. Places like Argentina or Brazil or Mexico, just make sure you research whether Americans are accepted and try dating there, it will blow your mind.
Re:Sexual loneliness: A neglected public health problem?
by jandrewrogers on Thursday January 26, 2023 @01:44PM
(#34536571)
Having a lot of money is correlated with personality traits that are attractive, because those traits facilitate accumulating money. You are conflating correlation and causation. Lucking into money because you happen to work in tech is not evidence of quality dating material ipso facto.
It is not hard to get a date on the west coast on $300k as a tech person, as long as you have more to offer than just that.
I've talked about it on other threads but where and how you earn your money matters. 300K per year as a lawyer = sexy and powerful. Even "don draper" vibes. 300K as a SWE? The moment you mention this at a bar the girl knows you went to university courses that averaged 9 men to 1 woman. They know you're likely on the ASD spectrum. The know "the odds are good but the goods are odd".
This is why blind is filled with posts by high earning folks who can't ever get a single date. It's hard out there and thinking that you can beta-bux your way out of it in a west coast city isn't going to work out for you.