Re:Telling your inner critic to chill
by matt-attack on Thursday January 19, 2023 @11:43AM
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Exactly my thoughts. "I love and accept myself, exactly as I am." seems like an entirely defeatist attitude, and one that completely discounts the idea of self-improvement.
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Re:Telling your inner critic to chill
by jetbooster on Thursday January 19, 2023 @11:49AM
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I think the mantras above might be important for a person who struggles with criticising things they can't change about themselves, height, beauty, hair loss, age, that sort of thing.
I agree that it comes across defeatist using these mantras in relation to things you can change, like skills, outlook, fitness, number and/or quality of relationships.
Re:Telling your inner critic to chill
by matt-attack on Friday January 20, 2023 @02:02PM
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Great distinction. I agree 100%.
Re:Telling your inner critic to chill
by gilmore606 on Thursday January 19, 2023 @09:03PM
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Squaring the circle here: I love and accept myself right now, with all the flaws I know I have. I'm trying to improve, but who knows what I will and won't ultimately fix. Maybe this old lump of coal never will be a diamond. But I'm not going to wait til I've climbed the asymptote to start loving myself, I can just love the self I'm stuck with here and now.