In the early 2000s only "professionals" used CAD. Now (almost) everyone with a 3d printer or a shed they want to build uses CAD. It's trickled down.
The pickup artists are on the bleeding edge of the "craft" if you can call it that. It shouldn't be surprising that the stuff they do (or at least the stuff that works) filters down.
A lot of people are picking up on how PUA types are actually annoying grifters who think bullying women is flirting, or even that some forms of PUA are actually blatantly sociopathic.
A lot of them are pretending like they have some special insight beyond the fact that they a.) are conventionally mostly attractive b.) are at least a tiny bit charismatic c.) had enough self-confidence to try doing literally anything at all.
I hate having to deal with the aftermath of endless men approaching me at random who think "being an asshole" is flirting. It's so annoying.
Some people who are looking to get better at dating are applying something vaguely approaching the scientific method to improve their odds in the game. For some reason, that triggers people. Decades of propaganda (Disney movies, etc ) have people thinking relationships are some kind of special, unknowable magic. Well, I hate to be the bearer of bad news but that’s now how attraction or relationships actually work. Imagine if you told someone with depression that they should simply “feel better” instead of working on therapy.
The legitimate PUA’s simply tell men that they can improve their luck in dating by focusing on fitness, improving social skills, and so on. People shouldn’t be shamed for self improvement. In fact it’s our society that’s deeply broken, not the extreme minority of men who are actually doing something to better themselves.
>even that some forms of PUA are actually blatantly sociopathic.
It of says a lot, and none of it good, that adopting sociopath behaviors and then spray and praying them is an effective way for men to keep the big end of the sales funnel full.
>A lot of them are pretending like they have some special insight beyond the fact that they a.) are conventionally mostly attractive b.) are at least a tiny bit charismatic c.) had enough self-confidence to try doing literally anything at all.
The pool of women that will entertain the idea of sleeping with any given man is small. The pool of men that will sleep with any given women is large. Women don't need to put any effort into identifying this pool. Men do, that's what all this spray and pray PUA crap is about. Men need to identify this pool before expending any filtration effort on other criteria. And at the other end of the funnel pool of women any given man is compatible enough with is large. Women have a much smaller pool of men they're compatible enough with so they try to filter by this first, much to the chagrin of every man who has to deal with it (the same way you're annoyed by getting hit on by men you're not interested in).
Oh, and I hope you noticed the perverse incentive for both men and women to fudge the things that are under their control in order to pass the filter of people who are otherwise out of their league or incompatible...
Thank god I'm not single anymore.
I had a friend who used the "craft" and had enough success with it that he was utterly convinced he could get literally any woman to sleep with him. He failed to notice that all of his "marks" could be grouped into roughly two sets of women:
- Those who were highly insecure and not intelligent or not socially aware enough to realize they were being manipulated.
- Those who were fundamentally playing the same game, i.e., they were consciously looking to get laid, and they would sit in judgement of their suitors, sleeping with whoever could pass their "shit tests" and put on an impressive enough performance. An odd sort of "game recognizes game" self-awareness.
Anyway, my point is that some of this stuff really does work, but it's not nearly as universal as its practitioners like to believe. And much of the time when it works, the target is fully aware of the game being played.
It reminds me of the early 2000s "pick up artist" stuff, I had a few friends who read the books and would actively hit on women anytime we went out. It was horrible haha.
As for the maker of this app, if it fills a need and gets widely adopted who knows?