Re:Salesforce, but for Dating
by oceanplexian on Wednesday January 18, 2023 @10:34PM
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There are plenty of grifters among PUAs, but that’s not really a fair portrayal to say the community is only comprised of scam artists or looking to take advantage of the opposite sex.
Some people who are looking to get better at dating are applying something vaguely approaching the scientific method to improve their odds in the game. For some reason, that triggers people. Decades of propaganda (Disney movies, etc ) have people thinking relationships are some kind of special, unknowable magic. Well, I hate to be the bearer of bad news but that’s now how attraction or relationships actually work. Imagine if you told someone with depression that they should simply “feel better” instead of working on therapy.
The legitimate PUA’s simply tell men that they can improve their luck in dating by focusing on fitness, improving social skills, and so on. People shouldn’t be shamed for self improvement. In fact it’s our society that’s deeply broken, not the extreme minority of men who are actually doing something to better themselves.
Some people who are looking to get better at dating are applying something vaguely approaching the scientific method to improve their odds in the game. For some reason, that triggers people. Decades of propaganda (Disney movies, etc ) have people thinking relationships are some kind of special, unknowable magic. Well, I hate to be the bearer of bad news but that’s now how attraction or relationships actually work. Imagine if you told someone with depression that they should simply “feel better” instead of working on therapy.
The legitimate PUA’s simply tell men that they can improve their luck in dating by focusing on fitness, improving social skills, and so on. People shouldn’t be shamed for self improvement. In fact it’s our society that’s deeply broken, not the extreme minority of men who are actually doing something to better themselves.