What you wrote is the case only for ASD 2/3, if that. For ASD 1 (basically AS), the same things that you describe about ADHD hold: people will ostracize/penalize you for being atypical, and will expect you to be normal and wont usually accomondate you. That's regardless if you are "exceptional at masking" or not.

And of course, many people have the jackpot of having both of those, as one is a common commorbidity of the other.