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Re:ADHD traits more reliably predict mental health issues th... by Doxin on Tuesday January 17, 2023 @03:09AM (#34410208)
> Everyone assumes you’re just a regular person who opts to perform poorly.

Man isn't that the truth. I can't begin to count the amount of times I've been accused of being lazy, or the times I've been told I could amount to more if I just applied myself.

Getting a diagnosis is amazing, not because it gives me access to drugs -- I don't use any -- but because it allows me to stop blaming myself for the ADHD symptoms.

Re:ADHD traits more reliably predict mental health issues th... by steve_adams_86 on Tuesday January 17, 2023 @11:46PM (#34423522)
> it allows me to stop blaming myself

Absolutely. One thing I’ve found though is that it takes a long time to realize how many things there are that you’ve internalized due to ADHD.

I’ll find myself kind of falling into a rut of self loathing and think, wait, how’d I get here? What’s the root of this?

After a bit of digging over minutes, hours, or days, I come to realize such bizarre ideas have been embedded over the years that really don’t make sense. Unfortunately their effect is totally real. Not exaggerating, I began to suspect I was a sociopath before my diagnosis (why not do better if I know what I do wrong? Why do I upset people I care about in the same ways, over and over? There could only be one answer!) and I still routinely bump up against those ideas.

It’s kind of like weeding a garden. Identifying the weeds can be difficult, and they’re all hiding in and around the cover of normal plants. Their seeds and roots keep growing back if you aren’t careful.