51 shootings a year in a country with 100,000 public schools, not even counting private and charter schools, is not "commonplace." Your child is statistically 19 times more likely to die in a car accident than from a school shooting based on last year's numbers of 608 versus 32:

https://www.toddwburrislaw.com/how-many-children-die-in-car-...

https://www.edweek.org/leadership/school-shootings-this-year...

If you're not having kids because of school shootings then you might have a serious problem and should seek help. And I am not trying to be callous in saying that. I feel sadness for someone who is unnecessarily gripped in fear about the future in that way. You deserve better!