51 shootings a year in a country with 100,000 public schools, not even counting private and charter schools, is not "commonplace." Your child is statistically 19 times more likely to die in a car accident than from a school shooting based on last year's numbers of 608 versus 32:

https://www.toddwburrislaw.com/how-many-children-die-in-car-...

https://www.edweek.org/leadership/school-shootings-this-year...

If you're not having kids because of school shootings then you might have a serious problem and should seek help. And I am not trying to be callous in saying that. I feel sadness for someone who is unnecessarily gripped in fear about the future in that way. You deserve better!

"school shootings" is also misleading, because it includes negligent discharge of a police officer's gun into the wall on school property, gang/crime related shootings (even non-fatal) on the school parking lot after hours, and so on.

What we think of as "school shootings" - an active shooters targeting individuals in a school systematically - is still exceedingly rare and you know them all by name. 1-2 per year, if memory serves. Pretty bad, yea, but not nearly what it's made out to be. Pretty much chance of being struck by lightning.