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A comment on Ask HN: I'm 40 and feel my mental ability declining. Programming seems harder. Parent comment

Re:Ask HN: I'm 40 and feel my mental ability declining. Prog... by WhiteBlueSkies on Tuesday January 10, 2023 @10:19AM (#34326129)
They are first world problems and if you read carefully everyone who has gotten responsibilities chose them and they are very happy for it.

It's just the mind's way of coming up with problems when there aren't any.

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Re:Ask HN: I'm 40 and feel my mental ability declining. Prog... by MuffinFlavored on Tuesday January 10, 2023 @10:35AM (#34326365)
It just feels like you gradually "give up" a life that was once yours (less responsibilities) and are "slowly forced" into a life that isn't as much yours (get married, buy a house, have children).
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Re:Ask HN: I'm 40 and feel my mental ability declining. Prog... by WhiteBlueSkies on Tuesday January 10, 2023 @11:15AM (#34327105)
Doesn't "slowly forced" imply lack of agency?
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Re:Ask HN: I'm 40 and feel my mental ability declining. Prog... by MuffinFlavored on Tuesday January 10, 2023 @12:44PM (#34328545)
> sense of agency refers to the feeling of control over actions and their consequences.

You're damned if you do (give up control) damned if you don't (walk through life unmarried with no kids in an apartment wondering what could've been)

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