I know all those names. Totally understand, and am sympathetic.

The "confessional" (theologically and vocationally serious) Lutheran church is having a big moment right now, and I think has a good framework for harnessing the strength and eagerness of young men, whether they should move away or take on parenting or local community-creating. But it's very small and asserts itself against the baby boomer gen x conservatism in the same churches, to a degree. Always some difficulty.