One argument for spending time on 1 and 3: Step 2 alone can ignite fight-or-flight responses in people's limbic systems. If that happens, rationality goes out the window. (Even more than usual, I mean!)

If this picture is correct, then I think it's worth some "overhead" to try to get a conversation between calm, rational beings going. A shouting match between two werewolves may not be valuable even if they get right to the point.

Not dismissing what you're saying. Just adding another picture.