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A comment on Stanford's “Elimination of Harmful Language” Initiative. Parent comment

Re:Stanford's “Elimination of Harmful Language” Initiative by imgabe on Tuesday December 20, 2022 @07:03AM (#34064739)
"My emotional response is your responsibility" is incredibly similar to what abusers tell their victims. "This is your fault, you made me angry".
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Re:Stanford's “Elimination of Harmful Language” Initiative by dtoma on Tuesday December 20, 2022 @07:44AM (#34065079)
I’m sure everyone would agree it’s a bit of both? We’re responsible for not intentionally hurting others, and we’re responsible for not being excessively controlling or sensitive about others’ behaviours?
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Re:Stanford's “Elimination of Harmful Language” Initiative by TeMPOraL on Tuesday December 20, 2022 @08:21AM (#34065479)
Precisely. And weaponizing the ambiguity - whether by hurting others with words and saying "but it's up to their reaction", or being excessively controlling and justifying it by saying words can hurt more than physical attacks - that's abusive behavior. Intent matters.
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Re:Stanford's “Elimination of Harmful Language” Initiative by makeitdouble on Tuesday December 20, 2022 @08:16AM (#34065425)
As you point, that’s also a toxic extreme. Assigning blames is IMO different from judging one’s mental state.
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Re:Stanford's “Elimination of Harmful Language” Initiative by goatlover on Tuesday December 20, 2022 @11:46AM (#34068444)
The equity training I've experienced says it's not the intent that matters, but rather the impact, which sounds a lot like, "you made me angry". It turns the whole you're responsible for how you react to things on it's head, making other people responsible for your reactions.
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