I have no idea what you are disagreeing with. Could you clarify what exactly you are arguing against in what I have said?

You suggest to explore the topic more quietly, which is something I am opposed to.

You are opposed to people reading whatever they so desire privately, talking to people in smaller groups where controversy has a tendency to be less problematic and where one may have more hope of being understood and engaged on the points one intended to make instead of on points other people imagined you made that never crossed your mind, asking questions on HN under circumstances where there is less likelihood of strong pushback merely for asking?

Why?

In my experience, that's how one typically finds good info and meaningful feedback and does so with less pain than can be involved in standing on a big stage in front of everyone with a bullhorn and blaring their "controversial" supposed "position" to the world, knowing the world will scream back, often without making any real effort to understand what was actually said -- or so it can feel on the receiving end.

Right.

Personally I am open to any discussions as it is the only way known so far to explore and understand other people.

Certainly there may and probably will be some pushback and some people may get offended along the way. And that's alright. It shouldn't be the reason for censoring or shunning any topics. Nowadays we have growing share of people in society who are offended with anything and it's a sign of immaturity, not a healthy discussion.

Adults on the contrary, are called adults because among other things they can look at stuff and openly discuss everything, particularly things that may not portray them well.

Shunning discussion because it can hurt someone leads to large misunderstanding on subjects and multiplies weird beliefs that have nothing to do with reality.

I wasn't talking about censoring or shunning anything.

I also wasn't telling you, in specific, what to do.

It was a good faith suggestion of best practices based on substantial experience with being very controversial and trying to find a path forward on my interests under circumstances where my willingness to debate, my ability to be thick-skinned and so forth were not getting me the desired results and were coming at an excessive cost.

Not sure why you are getting so defensive.

I've expressed disagreement with your PoV and explained why when you asked.

We have exchanged opinions and that's great. Let's not dig further.

Have a good day.