Re:How Friendships Change in Adulthood
by drbeast on Saturday November 19, 2022 @12:32PM
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The reality is most friendships aren't healthy or worse are extremely limiting. People who still have friends from childhood into late adulthood are mostly likely insecure and haven't grown up at all. Exceptions to this do exist, but 9 out of 10 this holds steady.
Re:How Friendships Change in Adulthood
by throwaway_au_1 on Saturday November 19, 2022 @05:47PM
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I wish I could downvote you. Your comment is unsubstantiated nonsense.
Re:How Friendships Change in Adulthood
by drbeast on Saturday November 19, 2022 @10:20PM
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Clearly someone never grew up. If you want to encourage groupthink please go back to plebbit
Re:How Friendships Change in Adulthood
by moneywoes on Saturday November 19, 2022 @03:15PM
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Sorry to hear that. Do you fear being lonely
Re:How Friendships Change in Adulthood
by varispeed on Monday November 21, 2022 @06:13AM
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I don't feel lonely. I used to, but when I dug deep into those feelings I realised it was mostly because of the social construct that are being imposed upon us and peer pressure. People say "how come you don't have friends? What's wrong with you?" which can make one anxious and wanting to belong and which can be misconstrued as feeling lonely.
People also used to need friends, so that they could share their experiences and gain knowledge how to deal with life situations. For instance, if you found yourself in debt or having trouble at work, you would ask a friend for advice what to do or look for reassurances that you are doing the right thing.
Usually though your "friend" would know about this just as much as you do, resulting in poor advice or they would use that private information in the future against you or to get some advantage.
Now, thanks to internet, you can get expert advice for cheap and the risk of your personal information being used against you is much much lower.
I think friendships were an evolutionary stop for information exchange and now that we have something much better, it will eventually fade away.
My life has become so much better when I cut all contact with all people I used to know - turns out they weren't friends anyway.
That being said, I limit my contacts to strictly business. If something does not benefit me, I don't engage.
No more stress, no more drama, more free time, more enjoyment.