Re:My ADHD Founder Toolbox
by OkayPhysicist on Friday November 18, 2022 @05:20PM
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I think for outreach, hammering on executive disfunction is the best way to go. It's the most alien to the neurotypical, and it most clearly paints ADHD as a disability, rather than a mere personality trait. And rather than talking about failing to focus on things you don't want to do, talk about failing to focus on things you want to do, but simply fail to produce incremental enough satisfaction to remain focused on. Like, before I got medicated, I would want to watch a movie. I would enjoy watching a movie. But you better bet I'd be getting up, checking my phone, going to the restroom out of sheer restlessness, etc, instead of doing the thing I wanted to be doing: watching the damn movie.
The lack of focus is a lure, an oversimplification. It's not just "I can't focus on something I don't like to do". It's more like "halfway into making a cup of coffee, the most important thing in my life became to clean the pantry". Imagine running late, but stopping dead in your tracks with only one sock on, and answering an email. You know it's mad, but you can't help it.
However if you have a job that's lenient enough, you can hide it well. I stopped treatment because I couldn't gather enough data. My job was too easy to know if it worked. It's still the case.
Another thing is that a lot of people learned to cope with it for decades before getting diagnosed. Their life is full of alarms and error-catching mechanisms, so the symptoms are well-managed. If you know your strengths and weaknesses, you pick your battles. It's not an issue unless your battles are picked for you.