Yeah I see this argument a lot in the infosec industry where military terms are used quite a bit, but its never passed the sniff test. Usually the argument is that the toxicity, shitty work-life balance, and lack of minorities all comes from ex-military people or whatever, meanwhile:

- RTFM, flaming, and calling people noobs comes from IRC culture

- The OSCP (_the_ standard red team certification) is 48 hours long, the company offering it currently woman-led

- The most common background in my experience for minorities in this industry is ex-military