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Re:Just Dont by laputan_machine on Tuesday November 08, 2022 @10:41AM (#33520172)
I think there's a misunderstanding in what I'm saying, or perhaps people aren't understanding that listening is actually quite a skill to practice and is really quite draining. It isn't free to ask people to listen to, there is a cost associated with it.

Asking people to listen but then they can't input is something I find incredibly arrogant, egotistical, selfish, basically it's a terrible human trait and I'm surprised there are so many apologists in this thread that defend this kind of behaviour.

Again, I'm not talking about off the cuff "how was your day" "oh my angina is playing up again" "WELL THEN YOU SHOULD DO THIS AND THAT" kinds of conversations... I think that is obvious.

I mean the 30 minute ones where someone is sounding off to you about their problems. Yeah, I am going to give you advice. I'm genuinely surprised this is seen as A Bad Thing.

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Re:Just Dont by spiffytech on Tuesday November 08, 2022 @11:00AM (#33520422)
Yeah, there could be a communication gap here. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that you're talking about truly excessive situations.

The mild versions of the patterns you're objecting to don't seem problematic.

As someone who's problem might be unfixable, sometimes I just need a sounding board and don't expect actionable advice. And sometimes people just want to vent, but I try to save that for my therapist.

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