Re:Ask HN: How to regain focus when you feel overwhelmed?
by nine_zeros on Friday November 04, 2022 @12:00PM
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I feel you.
Over the past 3 years, I've had to face
- New job (with the slow burning leetcode nonsense as a precursor)
- Dad's court cases (he has a lot going on)
- Wife's immigration woes (USCIS is hands down the WORST agency in the world)
- Wife's job situation (made tenuous by USCIS)
- Mom's covid
- Dad's admission to hospital because of diabetes symptoms
- 2 Failed IVF cycles
- Inability to travel outside the country because US consulates don't function for my wife
- Promotion and management issues
- Inflation
- Recession
I am spent. Each one of the above is its own bureaucracy with insurance and/or slow government. US government truly is obnoxious to deal with.
Honestly, I don't give two rats ass about work any longer. I used to be strategic and effective engineer. I don't think I can keep up with bureaucracy any longer.
The only way I've managed myself through this is by sleeping well ( with a low-dose 1mg melatonin every night) and cutting off all social connections (which really sucks). I also try to do small tasks at a time but I don't know how much longer I can sustain this for.
Over the past 3 years, I've had to face
- New job (with the slow burning leetcode nonsense as a precursor)
- Dad's court cases (he has a lot going on)
- Wife's immigration woes (USCIS is hands down the WORST agency in the world)
- Wife's job situation (made tenuous by USCIS)
- Mom's covid
- Dad's admission to hospital because of diabetes symptoms
- 2 Failed IVF cycles
- Inability to travel outside the country because US consulates don't function for my wife
- Promotion and management issues
- Inflation
- Recession
I am spent. Each one of the above is its own bureaucracy with insurance and/or slow government. US government truly is obnoxious to deal with.
Honestly, I don't give two rats ass about work any longer. I used to be strategic and effective engineer. I don't think I can keep up with bureaucracy any longer.
The only way I've managed myself through this is by sleeping well ( with a low-dose 1mg melatonin every night) and cutting off all social connections (which really sucks). I also try to do small tasks at a time but I don't know how much longer I can sustain this for.