Maybe life supporting planets are abundant and there's no reason to risk a conflict with us?
We've certainly been detecting a lot of them anyhow.
It could be equivalent to me going to Africa to fight a lion for its den instead of just renting an apartment.
(And we have a large history of killing lions to get their habitat. We do lot of that with ants too, and all kinds of insects like the sibling comment seems to ignore.)
Question is how often does that occur on other planets with life? Maybe Earth is unusual in that life sticks around for long enough that low probability events happen. Maybe it happened far earlier than it would normally take. The universe is big, low probability events will happen.
Except that something similar happened at least twice. Plants have another cellular organelle that was created by ingesting bacteria.
It is still missing any justification for what is so rare about it. (Not that those arguments are any hard to make; instead the main question here is which of them is the correct one.)
Your argument #2 (that's the exact same as the zoo hypothesis) needs an extremely good reason for no alien at all trying to kill us and take Earth. And we currently lack any good reason.