Among women I know, I don't see this attitude. Women I know who want careers actually want it because they don't want to be dependent on other people. Every woman I know either has personal experience or knows another woman with personal experience of being in an abusive domestic household and being unable to leave because of no personal income. That's a huge motivator not to be SAH.

my point still stands that a woman saying they want to be a "mom" and not have a career is looked down on by their peers due to the last 30 years of career propaganda. Fear of being abused is something else entirely.

I repeat that I don't know what you're talking about and it doesn't reflect my experience with women. Do you have sources or something?

It's not about career, it's about independence. Anyone without the financial ability to leave has no power in a relationship and will be exploited or abused.

That's not an edge case, it's an inevitable consequence of being financially dependent. It happens 100% of the time.

"will be" and 100% of the time sounds, pardon me, very sad a point of view. What about those that don't abuse their position of power and responsibility? There's even a popular cultural saying, "with great power comes great responsibility". Is there really no one out there with, well, good in their hearts in your world?

I think you're confusing your social circle with society-level norms.