Ask HN: How to deal with regret of not having kids

Re:Ask HN: How to deal with regret of not having kids by nostromo123 on Wednesday October 19, 2022 @10:43AM (#33262967)

So impossible that both I and my neighbour of similar age got pregnant within a couple of months of trying at 40...must be something in the water here. Or maybe we are just healthy and have good hormonal status ;-)

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Re:Ask HN: How to deal with regret of not having kids by bhouston on Wednesday October 19, 2022 @10:54AM (#33263134)

Anecdotal success after 40 is real. But the statistical distribution means that you and your friend are lucky. My friend circle has a lot of couples in it who have had fertility problems. Often it isn’t spoken of.

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Re:Ask HN: How to deal with regret of not having kids by nostromo123 on Thursday October 20, 2022 @05:52AM (#33272544)

For sure it's anecdotal, I just wanted to point out that at this age it is by far not next to impossible to have a child. I wouldn't rely on it, but it's also not a "1 in 100/1000" kind of situation. There are various sources that are extremely discouraging to women of this age, as if getting pregnant and having a healthy child at this age was somehow akin to winning the lottery, when it is not.

Of course, it all depends on the woman's egg reserves and general health; but there, like I commented in another subthread, personal biology definitely trumps statistics.

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