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Re:Ask HN: How to deal with regret of not having kids by bhouston on Wednesday October 19, 2022 @07:36AM (#33260635)
Pregnancy success is women dependent and start to drop at the beginning of one’s 30s and gets really bad in late thirties and near impossible in early 40s. Every women is different and some have earlier falloff in success rates. The moral of the story is don’t want until you are 30 to have kids. Have them young and it is easy. Wait and it gets really emotionally hard or impossible or expensive or a combination of all three.

https://advancedfertility.com/patient-education/causes-of-in...

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Re:Ask HN: How to deal with regret of not having kids by pingpongrandom on Wednesday October 19, 2022 @10:14AM (#33262506)
Thanks for adding this additional context!
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Re:Ask HN: How to deal with regret of not having kids by nostromo123 on Wednesday October 19, 2022 @10:43AM (#33262967)
So impossible that both I and my neighbour of similar age got pregnant within a couple of months of trying at 40...must be something in the water here. Or maybe we are just healthy and have good hormonal status ;-)
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Re:Ask HN: How to deal with regret of not having kids by bhouston on Wednesday October 19, 2022 @10:54AM (#33263134)
Anecdotal success after 40 is real. But the statistical distribution means that you and your friend are lucky. My friend circle has a lot of couples in it who have had fertility problems. Often it isn’t spoken of.
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Re:Ask HN: How to deal with regret of not having kids by nostromo123 on Thursday October 20, 2022 @05:52AM (#33272544)
For sure it's anecdotal, I just wanted to point out that at this age it is by far not next to impossible to have a child. I wouldn't rely on it, but it's also not a "1 in 100/1000" kind of situation. There are various sources that are extremely discouraging to women of this age, as if getting pregnant and having a healthy child at this age was somehow akin to winning the lottery, when it is not.

Of course, it all depends on the woman's egg reserves and general health; but there, like I commented in another subthread, personal biology definitely trumps statistics.

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