This growing up thing is hard.
Due to having a reading level 10 years ahead of my peers, and already having learned math concepts at least 4 years ahead of them... at age 8... I was put 3 years ahead of my peers in school until the teachers realized the other kids were having none of it.
They put me back in the 'proper' grade, because 'I' somehow wasn't going to develop social skills well enough in such an environment.
They might not have been wrong, but they would have been more correct to tune in the little buggers causing me grief. Or at least let me tune them in...
That said, I should add that 2 of those students ended up running into me again years later. They apologized, which was nice; but then offered me the chance to go do lines of coke with them...
I declined, and went on with my life knowing doubly that my instinct about them was correct the whole time. Wastes of skin.
I would flag your comment if I had the authority. This is not acceptable language for this forum.
Most are still struggling to get over it decades later, myself included.
Quite frankly, I think we all should be banding together to sue our old schools over this stuff.
I could read since I was 4. When others at school were reading one word per minute spelling letter by letter, I finished the whole article and then continued to another and another. Result? I got a teacher's note (a big deal where I live) almost every lesson, and bad grades. And the children hated me, probably mostly because of the teacher mocking me for not paying attention. I would give anything to be boosted to similarly skilled children. I was friends with them anyways, never really liked the kids from my grade (but that could've been avoided if I wasn't forced to "learn" with them).
I've never seen a boosted child say it wasn't worth it or that they had much problems being a year/two younger than their classmates. Actually, smaller schools here usually combine 2-3 grades into one anyways and the children are friends alright, so boosting the taught curriculum is really not a big deal (unfortunately the system didn't allow it when I went to school).
I think that in many case, trying to pretend that people are the same when they are not is causing a lot of pain for everyone involved. Holding a conversation with a normal person requires me to expand a lot of energy to not be myself, because if I am I will quickly be hurt and/or rejected. And just like I often hurt people by being myself, other people hurt me by being themselves. Trying to explain it to them has been pointless in all situation, and most of the time makes the situation worse.
Why would any of us have to endure that, when we could instead be with groups of like-minded people and enjoy life more? I don't feel superior to those people, and spending more time with them leads me to develop more negative sentiments towards them. I think the sane option is to avoid them as much as possible, while making sure that I treat them with respect. I can't change fundamentally who I am, they can't change who they are. I can't understand why you advocate for a situation that creates so much suffering for everyone involved.
The problem is putting a child in an environment where they are surrounded by adults all the time. Like being 17 and having your 'peers' be 30 year old post-docs who are getting married and having children is a complete mind-fuck.
Being surrounded by adults all the time is only a problem if you never spend time around actual peers. Nobody should be forced to isolate themselves like that.
What is the solution? I will not spoil it for you, but it does not involve giving up.
But we also need to make sure that we respect the humans who possess those brains too...