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Re:Ask HN: Planning for Parenthood by fspacek on Sunday October 09, 2022 @03:59PM (#33144655)
You mentioned "hypothetical partner". Focus on that first, nothing else matters.
Re:Ask HN: Planning for Parenthood by bckr on Sunday October 09, 2022 @04:20PM (#33144906)
Thanks. Updated to "future partner", as I have success with partnerships and am not worried about finding the right person in the given timeframe. I am not looking to get married and have a nuclear family, so I am looking to see how others with a hacker mentality are thinking about their children.
Re:Ask HN: Planning for Parenthood by zaphar on Monday October 10, 2022 @08:39AM (#33150570)
The nuclear family as you call it has a lot of built in mental and emotional safeguards for your child. Even with a solid nuclear family it's hard to provide those safeguards, if you are intending to have children without them just be aware that you are going to have to work much harder to provide those mental and emotional safeguards. Parenting is already hard enough make very sure that you truly want to make it even harder still by going this route. I'm not saying it's impossible but you are in some sense doing it on hard mode.

Full disclosure: I have raised 5 children.

Re:Ask HN: Planning for Parenthood by bckr on Monday October 10, 2022 @02:50PM (#33155088)
Thank you, I'll learn more about this.