Why Men Are Hard to Help

Re:Why Men Are Hard to Help by andelink on Saturday October 01, 2022 @02:47PM (#33048939)

Did you read the article? It's about social/educational/economic programs that have profound impact for women but little to no impact for men. Programs that include both men and women, but where men aren't seeing any real improvements from them. It discusses men and women both having the same opportunities, but men are not seizing them like women are, due to what is cited as a lack of drive/ambition/motivation. It mentions that research into understanding this gender gap is not being done, but is paramount for effective program and policy design, and that continuing to spend money on these programs that don't work for half of the population is irresponsible.

I don't know if I see the connection to emotional vulnerability in a romantic relationship.

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Re:Why Men Are Hard to Help by DangitBobby on Saturday October 01, 2022 @05:58PM (#33050514)

> Because men are bullied when they ask for it. This is what Brene Brown found:

>> Here’s the painful pattern that emerged from my research with men: We ask them to be vulnerable, we beg them to let us in, and we plead with them to tell us when they’re afraid, but the truth is that most women can’t stomach it. In those moments when real vulnerability happens in men, most of us recoil with fear and that fear manifests as everything from disappointment to disgust.

How is that relevant? Supposedly men are not good at asking for and receiving help because of their traditional gender role.

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