My mother had cancer when I was in high school. My Dad ended up crying when my grandmother was around over it. My grandmother then told my Mom that she didn't think he was up to being her husband through difficult times.

I have a lot of female friends. They will rip their boyfriends apart for vulnerable moments or emotional needs or economic inadequacies. One complained about him having to visit his dying aunt and leaving her alone for a weekend. Another called her boyfriend a loser for not making enough money for them to live in Vancouver proper (an expensive place). Heck, my mother has called my father as loser for "only" making about 250K a year (my parents live in a 1 million person LCOL city).