Totally agree, I'm not saying there is a right path.
In my case, when I started in this industry 10 years ago I found most of my joy in coding, as time passed by I engaged into different hobbies that brought more joy to my life and ended up allocating more time on them than coding.
For me, I like coding, just like I like eating and I like socializing. The fact that I eat and socialize at work doesn't mean I try to avoid eating and socializing outside of work. Similarly the fact that I use a computer at work and or code at work doesn't mean I try to avoid using a computer and or code outside of work.
My working on whatever my company wants me to work on is not the same as me pursuing a hobby even if they overlap in the activities required to do both.
Also, some people just really enjoy it.
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32593135