When there is no time for important things that does not sound like a great life (to me of course).

Is that company that important?

Did we loose the ability to get enough to live and we live to get enough instead?

If you have ever had children, you know they become 100% of your life and 110% of your time for the first year or so, and with multiple children that could stretch to several years.

I guess if that interferes with your immediate hedonistic needs you would just get rid of the children? Maybe just dump them on someone else whose time is less self-importantly valuable?

It's the same with running a startup. You make the choice to commit, you follow through, and in the long run you reap the rewards and live a fuller, better life.

if it works you reap the benefits but the sad path is the same in both

miserable

> Is that company that important?

If he doesn’t want his children to starve then yeah working is important.

> Plus, he is in a relationship where his partner is supportive of his dreams and long hours.

The fact that he needs a servant-wife to be able to support his career is a red flag. Having so many children and spending so much time working also means he can't have meaningful relationships with all of them.

Why do you assume he "needs" her to support his career? Many founders are deliberately single and not in a relationship to focus on their startup, and do perfectly fine.

And how could you call someone a "servant-wife" just for choosing to be a stay-at-home mother? In what universe is that not completely disrespectful to people who choose to be stay-at-home mothers? You are calling a person a "servant" for being a mother and denying her agency by defining her only in relation to her spouse.

By this implication, the opposite of a "servant-wife" is a "working-wife," and it's shocking that you can't define a person independently of a spouse within this framework. The term "mother" doesn't do this, but better yet, it's best to skip negatively judging strangers entirely.

It's pure coincidence that it's the woman who stays at home, right?

When one half of a relationship of two people does work you don't respect, that doesn't make them a servant. These are two human beings that have divided the work they have to do to live their life in this way. There's nothing wrong with that.

The majority of stay-at-home partners happen to be women. There is something wrong with that.

Raising kids at home is now being servant? Should just drop the kids to daycare then where they grow up the most important years of their lives without any meaningful companionship of any of the parents.

lol at the hacker news crowed recoiling at a stay-at-home mother in 2022. Oh, the humanity!

The fact that you think she’s a servant says more about you than them.

As well say he’s the servant, working long hours while she gets to enjoy closer relationships with their children.

Why do you think that this isn't what she wants also?

I never said that she doesn't want it. Perhaps if society gave women the same expectations and opportunities as man, then she would have wanted to swap roles. But we'll never know.