99% of the time you don't need to be recursive though. Field filtering with 1 level of expansion for related resources solves 95% of problems for you, and if you're implementing something on your own API, you can have a custom route for the 5%.

GraphQL falls into the same trap that a lot of things do IMO - it assumes that because 5% of things are complex, that you need a solution that can deal with that complexity for 100% of your API, which needlessly complicates everything else.