GrapheneOS isn't for everyone. Neither is iOS, or Android with Google, or the Pinephone/Librem 5. And that is fine. It's good to have options.
It's a great strategy as Google makes 80%+ of it's revenue from Ads, and their ad model does not work well with a privacy first mindset.
Apple designs with privacy in mind. Google designs with invasiveness.
I find that hard to believe when so many of their devices' functionality depends on you sending data over to them. Unless you go out of your way to make sure you're blocking all your devices from phoning home or sending any data over to Apple, then any supposed privacy benefit becomes a lie.
Either you're the only owner of your data or your data is not, by definition, private to you.
Leith, D. J. (2021). Mobile Handset Privacy: Measuring The Data iOS and Android Send to Apple And Google. URL: https://www.scss.tcd.ie/doug.leith/apple_google.pdf
I'm afraid your conviction in Apple is the product of a well-crafted fantasy by their marketing department, instead of based on some deep rooted philosophical belief regarding the rights and privacy of their users.
0: https://www.barrons.com/articles/apple-revenue-ads-516478777...
That Ads devision can operate in a privacy first mindset while still seeing huge growth YoY. Where-as if Google operated in a don't be evil/privacy first mindset, they'd loose substantial revenue and likely no longer be profitable.
i.e Right to repair, Side Load Apps, no draconian app store policy, etc etc etc
Embrace both privacy and user freedom. that would be great
This includes ALL your data. Gmail, Google, Android.
So unless you're opting for iOs (provided they're not doing the same as Google here) and not using Gmail or Google you're still falling under "Surveilled by the gov via tech company who serves their interests and not yours, even if you pay money for their services".