Re:Ask HN: GPT-3 reveals my full name – can I do anything?
by mst on Monday June 27, 2022 @10:58AM
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I've found the best way to avoid having to make amends is to not cause unintentional offence, certainly, and I've got (annoyingly) slowly better at it over the course of my life.
Sometimes, though, I absolutely -do- intend to offend somebody, and in that case I own it.
It's a fundamental tenet of my way of life. I promptly admit when I'm wrong.
I've found the best way to avoid having to make amends, is to not cause the offense, in the first place. I tend to be fairly careful about keeping it in the "I," all the time (but no good deed goes unpunished -I am often told that "I'm making it all about me").
I do find that I get attacked, sometimes, right out of the blue, for stating personal philosophies and/or experiences. My fave is when I am told that something that happened to me "didn't actually happen." I assume that is because it is an inconvenient truth, for others. My experience, dealing with tech industry ageism, is a common fulcrum for that kind of response.