Your friend had a personal choice over her body to get a child. And it is a beautiful thing to do so, and I’m very sorry it happened - hopefully she will recover both mentally and physically and will have a sought-after child she wants.

Why do you want other women who did not choose this way to go over the potentially even more terrible thing of birthing a child at significant health risks she half-loves (as hormones are powerful things), half-hates? That just kills 2 people mentally.